AFRICANGLOBE – One of the worst things you can do to a woman is comment on her hair!
I admit it, I don’t get it!
From birth until death, a woman’s hair will change often, sometimes daily.
If you loved your mother’s hair throughout the years, you should love your woman’s hair as long as you love the woman.
When I visited Southern Africa, I saw Black women in Johannesburg, Pretoria, Cape Town and Sun City in South Africa and I observed the hair styles of women in the rural areas of Zimbabwe.
One day I was walking through Soweto, near Johannesburg and I saw this woman wearing tattered clothes and no shoes that had one of the most beautiful hairdos that I had ever seen.
I asked the lady, “Why do you take so much time and do so much work to create your beautiful hair style?”
And, she responded to me saying, “My hair is the first thing a man sees. If he doesn’t like my hair, he will not see any of the rest of me!”
To me, that says more about the men in her life than it does about her.
When considering a woman, a good man will look way past a woman’s hair. He will look into her eyes, he will observe her smile, he might even glance at her breasts or her turn around and take a peek at her booty!
But the very best men will look for what lasts when they consider a lady. They will look at her heart, her honesty, her level of respect, her character, the way she lives, the amount she contributes and gives, how she relates to adults and children, how she manages money, how she manages her home or business and the best men will look at how a woman sees him!
I once thought I had a great female friend. We sort of clicked on a whole lot of areas. We could talk for hours. We enjoyed doing things other men and women do.
But one day I asked what I thought was a simple and non-threatening question. I asked her if she had ever considered a different hair style.
Our relationship was never the same! I didn’t have a clue that her feelings about her hair were stronger than her feelings about us.
Once her hair emotions took over there was nothing more to say and nothing to discuss or explain.
Ladies, I have truly learned my lesson. I will not comment about your “hair”, say a word about your figure or mention anything about your understandings or misunderstandings.
I will not ask you to improve, progress, get better or to “step up” because most of what I say might be twisted and used against me and/or our relationship!
The saying that “birds of a feather, flock together” is true on so many levels.
Men and women that can’t love themselves will always find it difficult to allow someone to love them. Men and women that are happy where they are will resist any and all opportunities to have a better life.
And men and women that only know one lane will always retreat back to what they are used to if change is an improvement or an alternative.
Ladies, if you think a hair dye, a weave, a wig or some lace fronts will make a man want you, go for it and best of luck to you.
But what will you do if you need chemo-therapy and all of your hair falls out?
If you have a man that loves you for you and wants you, he will love you and remain by your side if you have good hair or not. He will stay with you if you buy your hair, grow your hair or cut all of your hair off!
By: Lucius Gantt
Mr. Gantt is the author of “Beast Too: Dead Man Writing”. He can be contacted at www.allworldconsultants.net